If you read this blog, you may have come across my typical late November post of what I want for Christmas. I would list several things and typically each year, I would get one or two. Then one week before Christmas, I would edit the post and remove the items. Some think that is mean, others never knew it was there while some think I should just tell them what I want. But what s it about gifts at Christmas.
It is hard to imagine celebrating Christmas in the modern world without thinking about giving gifts. But, have you ever thought to yourself, “Why do we give gifts at Christmas?” In some ways, the tradition of giving gifts at Christmas is a very ancient tradition. In other ways, giving gifts at Christmas is a relatively new development.
In the Christian religion, the practice of giving gifts at Christmas is traced back to the gifts of gold, frankincense and myrrh that were given to the Christ child by the three Magi. The magi were kings from the East, wise men who traveled a great distance following a star, to find the Christ child and to bring him gifts. The visit of the Magi to the Christ child was originally celebrated on the Feast of Epiphany on January 6th.
Over time, the tradition of giving gifts came to be more associated with Christmas than with Epiphany. It is the time from Christmas to Epiphany in the Church calendar – from December 25th through January 6th – that is recognized as the “twelve days of Christmas” from the old Christmas carol.
To be certain, the ancient Church did not “celebrate” Christmas as much as it “observed” Christmas as a holy day. It wasn’t really until the modern era that giving gifts to love ones at Christmas became more and more popular as the Middle Ages ended and the modern era began. Various countries and peoples began to make gift-giving a regular part of the holy day (or “holiday”) over a period of time. By the time the Americas were settled, giving gifts at Christmas was practiced by many of the settlers. The early Dutch settlers to America introduced St. Nicholas, or Santa Claus, to the new world. The early French and English settlers, in contrast, were more likely to give gifts at New Year’s or at Epiphany.
Ultimately, a common Christmas culture developed in which gifts were given on Christmas. In the nineteenth century, the idea of gift giving took on new dimensions, as the works of O. Henry, Charles Dickens, and Thomas Nast all helped to shape our concepts of Santa Claus and other aspects of the holiday.
Today, we all give gifts at Christmas for our own reasons. For some, it is a way to celebrate the Christian holy day. For others, it is a special time to let family and friends know that you care by giving gifts. At times, giving gifts at Christmas becomes almost mechanical, and a chore; when this happens, it is worth stepping aside for a few moments to consider why exactly you give gifts at Christmas.
So what good is it to tell someone what you want for Christmas? I believe Christmas is not about gifts, but sharing human love and friendship. I recently went to visit my father and when I left to return home, I told my sister if he dies tomorrow, at least I know he will die happy. Giving another human happiness is much more than any gift you can purchase, and it is not easy.
Each year I am more trouble about this tradition. This year, I have nothing on my Christmas list you can purchase. Here is what I want:
- My father to find peace with all the things he regrets
- Addie Grey to find happiness and stability
- Get back on track emotionally and physically
- My niece to find a good future after having two children and then have the father is a worthless father.
- My Girlfriend’s daughter to be safe as she prepared for her first child
- For people to smile and help a neighbor shovel the driveway
Basically, you get the drift. Be kind all you meet and yourself.