First week

This is about 1/3rd of the area - it is all completed now!!!

It has been one week since I set a goal to do 20 push-ups and 20 sit-ups upon waking each morning.  I have completed push-ups on all days, but on day 6, my stomach muscles said, "take a day off" for sit-ups, and I did.  This soreness was not just from the morning workout; I have also been lifting rocks from the rear yard, thoroughly cleaning the areas, placing new weed fabric, adding stepping stones, and then replacing the rocks.  This is so much WORK and a GREAT WORKOUT!

In other news, Shelley returned from visiting her dad in Lincoln, Nebraska, on Wednesday.  By 6:00 PM, he had forgotten she was there.  On Thursday, the care facility called and said his needs are beyond what he requires, and he must move.  He fell, and they do not have a way to lift him up without assistance from the fire department.  They do not have a Hoyer Lift, which would make lifting him easy with a single person, just the nurses.  

He is at the Legacy Arbors and moved there as they were to be a continuum of care, and he thought he would be there until deceased.  He paid over $10,000 a month for the service.  But I learned that if they cannot serve his needs (which is only helping him get up), they can force the move.  In addition, they require Shelley to pay $25 per hour, 24/7, for a personal assistant until his relocation. Once the cost of service increases, they force a move and justify it any way they can, is the impression I have concluded!  Now they can't force him out (but Sheyyey pays $600 more a day, or $18,000 a month until he does move), but they will find a place with an open bed, and then he has to go.  Areas with open beds are typically open for a reason; they are often the bottom of the barrel for a facility.   

Shelley left today to be the caregiver for 14 hours a day until he moves, which will decrease the cost for the mandated full-time care attendant to $250 a day, thereby saving $350 a day!

What I have learned is that the senior care business often prioritizes profit over care, or places where people do not care.  In my own experience with my mother, she was at a high-service facility, and we were paying $ 6,000 a month for minor assistance. She was miserable.  After thorough research and review, we found a place where she is happy, offering the same services in a larger unit for $1,900 less per month.  Unfortunately, there are so many profit-minded businesses that exploit seniors.  This is similar to daycares.  Greed at the expense of humans.  Sad reality!

Until next time, carry on my friends, carry on!

This is HARD!

The landscape rock in the rear yard has remained untouched for 31 years.  It was filled with debris, and as Shelley ages, it is harder to walk around the house.  So it was time to redo the area and add stepping stones.  Although Shelley refused to use anything but the rock, that meant cleaning out the much.  After six weeks of looking at stepping stones, Shelley finally picked out the rocks, so the work could begin.  

I started to remove the rock and found about three or more inches of dirt under it that was filled with older rocks. At some point, I assume another layer of stones was added to cover the debris. So, I got the high-power blower, got down on my knees with a pick, and started loosening the dirt so I could blow it away from the rock. There must be a better way, but since this is the most conclusive, I proceeded.  

After 7 hours, I am 75 percent complete with rock cleaning and very fatigued.  As it is supposed to rain for the next two days, I will get a break before the final push for cleaning.  At that time, placing the stepping stones will be easy in comparison!

Additionally, starting yesterday, I decided to do 20 push-ups and 20 sit-ups each morning to start my day.  I was unable to do the push-ups unless I was on my knees, so that is how I started.  Although it has only been two days, the first week will be more challenging before it becomes routine.  

I am doing this because I read that it will burn calories and boost my metabolism.  Push-ups and sit-ups work multiple muscle groups at once and require a significant amount of energy expenditure. There should also be a substantial increase in upper and core body strength, primarily abs, chest muscles, shoulders, triceps, back, core, and leg muscles. Regularly performing sit-ups and push-ups should lead to stronger and more defined muscles in your upper body, allowing you to perform daily activities with greater ease and efficiency. Core stability is essential as I age. 

Wish me well.  Carry on my friends, carry on!

A waste of time?

After a day of rest following the Detroit Lakes Troll searching trip, we decided to attend the Smokin' in Steele BBQ and Blues Fest in Owatonna.  MN, which was scheduled to be held today and tomorrow.  As the website said, vendors open at 11:00 AM, we decided to head 50 miles south at 3:30 PM to arrive in time for the first free concert.  The concert was with Eden Brent from Greenville, Mississippi.  She is a blues pianist and vocalist who combines boogie-woogie blues, jazz, soul, gospel, and pop.  In 2006, she won the Blues Foundation International Blues Challenge.  In 2009, she won the Blues Music Awards for Acoustic Artist of the Year and Acoustic Album of the Year, as well as the Pinetop Perkins Piano Player in 2025.  At the 14th Annual Independent Music Awards in 2015, Eden Brent won the award in the "Holiday Song" category for "Valentine".  She has the credentials, and I enjoyed her talent.

What I did not enjoy was that there was no BBQ.  None of the contestants had started cooking, and besides the free Eden Brent concert, they had a $15 fee for the beer garden and additional music.  There were a few food trucks, and T-Mobile was the only non-food vendor.  One of the food trucks was a bad excuse for BBQ, while others had nothing to do with BBQ.  Overall, it was a wasted trip, and I am not sure I would recommend wasting anyone's time on the first day, nor am I sure if the second day is any better.

Since we were hungry and longed for good BBQ, we searched for any option on the way home.  We found a place called Smoke in Lonsdell, MN.  It was about 6 miles out of the way, but it had decent reviews.  It was scheduled to open just before the COVID pandemic hit in 2020.  That meant they were set for business, but since they were not opened in 2019, they did not qualify for any COVID aid under the Paycheck Protection Program.  Therefore, they needed to wait until the fall to start any service.  To make things worse, in 2021, the owner's wife had brain cancer.  It's a miracle this business has survived.  

We ordered the pulled pork sandwich with Mac and Cheese and the brisket sandwich with cornbread.  I am thrilled that the business survived COVID and all the hardships, as the meal was the best BBQ experience I have ever had in my entire life.  The service was outstanding, like you would expect in a small-town restaurant.  I could not recommend this location higher and will look to return when in the area.

So maybe the Smokin' in Steele BBQ and Blues Fest in Owatonna, Minnesota, being such a disappointment and letdown was good; otherwise, I would have never found Smoke Restaurant in Lonsdale, Minnesota.

Carry on my friends, Carry on! 

Been busy - short trip

I have been busy with spring cleaning, preparing the gardens, and attending to my mom's needs as needed.  I have had only a few bicycle rides, although I have been using the battery less and getting a better workout.   It was slow at 11.8 MPH, but I was pleased as there was 712 feet of climb.

Shelley's dad is becoming a greater responsibility and a source of stress for her. Being 360 miles away does not make it easy!  He is no longer able to care for himself, and she gets a call about an issue every other day from the care facility.  It is disheartening to see how quickly he has declined since turning 82.  I have under 20 years to that point, but I pray I do not reach a time in life that he is experiencing now.  Very depressing to see the life he and my mother have now, with the impacts of aging.

I just returned from Detroit Lakes, MN, where they have wooden trolls hidden in the woods.  You used clues to find the trolls.  Each troll provided a letter for an 8-letter word that served as a clue to find the Golden Rabbit.  The project was created by Project 412 to encourage people to get outside and enjoy the outdoors.  It was fun, but very exhausting for overweight senior citizens.  Here are some images of the journey!

 

Troll Alexa	Troll Alexa
Troll Ronny Funny Face	Troll Jacob Everear Troll Jacob Everear

Troll Barefoot Frida	The Golden Rabbit
Troll Ling Leif	Rugged trail

 

That is a short update!  Carry on my friends, carry on!

Tomorrow ...

 For some reason, the Jim Croce song "Tomorrow's Gonna Be a Brighter Day" has been in my head.  

And tomorrow's gonna be a brighter day

There's gonna be some changes

Tomorrow's gonna be a brighter day

This time you can believe me

No more cryin' in your lonely room

And no more empty nights

'Cause tomorrow mornin' everything will turn out right

I need to get back into a routine.  All that planning for Shelley's retirement and the related stress have been out of sorts.  

I have been so busy with yard projects.  It has appeared to be never-ending.  Minimal bike riding or other exercises.  I have removed buckthorn, replaced edging, removed several tree limbs, cleaned the porch, removed several cubic feet of old landscape material, mowed the lawn, and so much more.  Made me very sore and tired.  My right knee has been hurting, and the entire right leg has spasms.  I think it's sciatica, but the only pain is in the leg.  Been nagging me for weeks now!

Today, I woke up feeling stuck in a loop. It wasn’t a bad day — it wasn’t good either. Just one of those gray days where time slips away but nothing much happens. I go through the motions and check things off the list, but it all still feels hollow. I think we’ve all had those days where the burden of routine settles heavier on our shoulders than usual. More energy, more excitement, more meaning. But the thing is that it’s already over. We can’t rewrite it, fix it, or change it. All we can do is reflect on it and let it go.

Every day carries new potential. Tomorrow might bring a small victory or a moment of peace that today didn’t offer. Who knows? Perhaps tomorrow might be when I make some great connections, finish that project I’ve been putting off, or simply find a few minutes to breathe deeply and smile. Hoping for a better tomorrow does not mean sitting back and waiting for it to be one step ahead. It means believing that things can change with effort, reflection, and maybe a bit of luck. It means waking up with the commitment to make tomorrow a little better, no matter how small that ray of brightness may break through.

I have also been concerned with my anemia.  My cardiac Physician believes my blood loss may be heart-related, since all other internal bleeding issues have been eliminated.  On June 11, I will have a 2-hour scan to see if indeed it is heart-related.  If it is, I'm unsure what to do, and I hope they find the cause.  Seven years with no answer is way too long!

I was invited to photograph the child of Shelley's second cousin at their softball game. That was fun, and I am pleased with the outcome. Some images are below.

 

 Until next time, carry on my friends, carry on!

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Shelley retires

On May 2, 2025, Shelley decided to retire. She stated she did not want a party because "nobody would come." She said dinner with me the night she retired was all she wanted.  She craved a Lobster Roll at Smack Shack.  Even with that directive, I created some surprises to celebrate the event.

First, I contacted Judith, her high school friend, with whom she has kept close contact her entire life.   I verified she could make the trip from Kansas City to surprise her on Shelley's retirement day and meet us at Smack Shack.

I also contacted Shelley's daughters, Allison and Leslie, about surprising her at the restaurant.  This would be difficult, as Allison has four young children and Leslie has three.  Fortunately, the stars aligned, and they got flights to arrive at 12:00 p.m. and 1:30 p.m. on Friday, May 2.  

With that set, I planned a surprise gathering at the house on May 3, at Noon.  Judith is an Outstanding baker, and she offered to make the cake.  I was stressing over the food option when my friend Carolyn, who excels at organizing social gatherings, offered to help.  She said, "Londell, I love doing this when spending other people's money".  So it was off to Costco, and $300 later, we were set for her to prepare the food for Saturday. 

Leslie and Allison would take Shelley to get massages in the morning so I could set up for the party.  Shelley knew North Dakota State was playing St. Thomas in St. Paul at Noon, so keeping the party a secret was effortless!

I also learned she had a work party at 2:00 p.m. on Wednesday, April 30.  They did it two days early, as Wednesday is the only day most people are in the office.  So I contacted Lana and Dada, her two closest friends at work, and asked them to get farewell videos I would compile for her to see and as a keepsake.  This was very challenging as I needed to coordinate getting the videos and keep Shelley at bay with the flurry of text message exchanges while creating the video.

I completed the video and arrived at Shelley's office at 1:30 p.m. When she returned from the restroom, she was surprised to see Dad and me sitting there. She was even more surprised when I explained what we did and showed the video. The video can be viewed here. Surprise, one accomplished!

The next surprise came on Friday.  I had been running on fumes, as my sleep was significantly disrupted by the "white lies" I needed to tell Shelley to keep the surprises.  On Friday, I went to the first game of three between North Dakota State and St. Thomas in St. Paul at Noon. Shelley had to go to the office and return all the work items.  However, she found it hard to leave.  I thought she would leave by 10:00 a.m., but it was closer to 1:30 p.m. before she could force herself to go, one last time.  She decided a stroll through Fort Snelling State Park would be a great way to start her retreatment.

Goodbye, bagel at the office!

Post retired in the park.

 

After she took a 90-minute stroll, I grabbed the last-minute supplies and arrived home, which allowed me to hide the party items.   

Since I didn't want her best friend and daughters to meet at the restaurant at the same time, making it two separate surprises, I arranged for Judith and her friend Tony to arrive at our house at 4:30 p.m. We would then carpool to Smack Shack. When Judith arrived, I told Shelley it looked like another siding/roofing/window salesman was coming to the door, and I did not want to answer it. Shelley said to ignore it, but I said they saw me.  

Shelley was all revved up to tell them she was uninterested, and when she opened the door, she was speechless! Bingo, surprise, two went off without an issue!  Shelley was in tears of joy.  Did not expect that to happen.

Judith and Tony surprise Shelley

The next issue is why a table of six was reserved when we arrived at Smack Shack. Shelley's Uncle Bill (Neil) contacted me earlier in the day about Saturday's party. Shelley might have seen my phone, so I covered the extra two seats by asking Bill and his wife, Pat, to join us for dinner. While Shelley did not yell at me, she expressed disappointment as she wanted to spend time with Judy. It was a perfect cover-up for the table of six.  

We arrived and were taken to the table. Judith would take the seat I needed Shelley to be in to hide Allison and Leslie's arrival. They all looked at me funny when I dictated the seating arrangement, but they obliged. When they arrived, Shelley was so thrilled. The video LINKED HERE says it all!  Surprise three, accomplished!

Once Shelley regained composure, we enjoyed the company and dinner. After two hours, we would come home and have an outdoor fire, but the temperature was below 50 degrees.  So we stayed inside, queued up the second congrats video I made with friends and family.  The first video she saw on Wednesday was with co-workers only.  I did need to leave three people out of the video she saw on Friday, as they mentioned the party.  They were added to the final video, which can be seen at this link.  So far, three successful surprises and one to go.  

I arranged to take my sister to the airport on Saturday at 6:00 a.m.  This allowed me to get last-minute supplies for the party.  I arrived home at 8:30 and prepared breakfast for Shelley, Leslie, and Allison so they could prepare to leave.  I had a very TIGHT window to succeed.  I had to clean the house and prepare for the party in under 2 hours!  Fortunately, I had the help of Judith (who opted out of the massage) and Tony, or I would have FAILED.  Judith can make things look much more presentable than a North Dakota Farm boy (me).  

We were all set at Noon, and people were arriving, but not Shelley.  She was taking her time, which made her 20 minutes late for the surprise.  Unfortunately, it was not a four-for-four surprise success.  Just as she exited her car, her cousin pulled into his driveway.  They rarely see each other, so she knew something was going on.  Oh well, it was a pleasant gathering that she thoroughly enjoyed.  Shelley looked at me and asked if there were any more surprises.  I apologized for all the twisted facts to keep the surprises, yet this was the last one!

The spread!

Family members - rare to see all in the same room

The way we felt after it was over

Closed Saturday with a fire

 

So, it was a success. I was exhausted! Setting up three huge surprises and keeping them unknown was more work than I had imagined over five weeks. It is once she has finally joined me in the retirement world!

Until next time, carry on my friends!

Follow the runners

Today, I had the opportunity to support and take photos of my son and his fiancée as they ran their first 50 K.  It was the Mountians-to-Sea Trail 50 K challenge.  The Bull City Running Company, a local running store, puts on the race.  It is a smaller race of about 100 entrants and very well organized.

They woke at 5:00 AM to head to the race while I cared for the dog.  When they were at mile 13, I headed to the race site, about 40 minutes away, to hear them along for the second half.  I was able to meet them four times before the ned of the race. At the first stop, Kira was in third place.  They were averaging about 30 seconds a mile faster on the return on the out-and-back course, averaging about 10:24 per mile out and well under 10 minutes per mile returning.

They finished with an official time of 5 hours, 29 minutes, and 9 seconds, an average of 10:21 per mile. Kira finished second, and Jordan was in the top 15. It was a great run for both of them!

It was a fun day.  Carry on my friends!

Nice week of riding so far

In an update on Lulu, she has not thrown up in a few days and appears to be better.  I often wonder if it is anxiety when people leave.  

I have been able to work out more this week while away. I had two weightlifting sessions at the club and will be over 100 miles after my ride later today; I am currently at 93.25 miles. My legs have been sore, and walking is difficult at times. I am also very tight with lower back pain. I may need to stretch more.

I have been able to accomplish some things for Jordan. His clogged sink and loose gutter rattling in the wind are driving him crazy. The garage door squeaks really bad, yet it's fixed now. I moved the pegboard and tools, relocated bicycle hangers, and performed basic lawn care.  

I realized a fun thing. I noticed that " never not odd or even" is the same if spelled backward. The things my brain sees seem like a waste of energy. I noted this as I often try to read words backward and saw it. It was much like long ago when I realized that a Subaru backwards is a U R A bus.

Until next time, carry on!